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Pearls of Hope, Inspiration and Encouragement

11 reasons to volunteer

1.To learn something about yourself.
 Kids/teens and Tweens  may ADORE you, the older victim will appreciate you, even if they are unable to say so, maybe youíll only find that out after you spend an afternoon every week mentoring a youngster.

2.To have fun!
Volunteer doing something you love, and it will be amazing!

3.Because youíre passionate about a cause.
You always loved helping others, now is a good time to help someone who CANNOT help theirselves.  Volunteer and be involved in something you really care about!

4.To explore career possibilities.
Maybe youíre heading to (or are already in) college or the Ďwork worldí. By volunteering you gain experience. Experience is key!

5.Itís time to get up and do something.
Don't sit there talking about what needs to be done, start a movement and do something. Be productive!!

6.Learn something new
You can learn a lot from volunteering

7. You are fulfilled knowing you made a difference in the lives and wellbeing of others.
Walk away with a sense of self pride and accomplishment.

8.Make someone elseís day.
Your extra little effort to help someone can actually prove to be a great help.

9.Volunteering looks REALLY good when applying for any job or higher education institute.
The position you may be desiring could be the one you are being trained on right now.

10.Feel good about yourself!
Know that, after volunteering, you did something great. Really great. Be proud of yourself.

11.Itís time to DO SOMETHING!
Apathy is boring.
Empathy is a world of difference, could be the difference between life and death

How can you get out

Making the decision to leave is very hard, especially if you have a child with your abusive partner. Whether or not you are ready or able to leave, you can take steps to help keep you and your child safe. If you stay:

  • Prepare a safety plan with your child and try to follow it whenever possible. Arrange a safe place for your children to go and plan a code word to let them know when they should leave and get help. Itís also important to tell them that their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.
  • Make sure your child knows that the violence isnít their fault and that violence is never okay, even when someone they love is being abusive.
  • Pack a bag you can take with you in an emergency Ė be sure to include important documentation for you and your children and anything your children may need (formula, medicine, diapers, etc). Keep the bag in a safe place, or leave it with someone you trust.

If you leave:

  • Check your stateís family laws to learn about custody laws. You will need to prove that awarding custody of the child to you is in the best interest of the child, so itís essential that you are familiar with the laws.
  • Call the police if you and your children need immediate protection. They can protect you and help you find a temporary place to stay. Be sure to get a police report, which will be good evidence to use in your custody case.

Each situation is different, and as a parent you know what is best for your child. If you canít leave your partner for fear of your own or your childís safety, contact a resource in your community that can give you information and tell you about the various options available to you and your family. Break the Cycle can help. For more information, you can contact us anonymously through the Ask Anything section of

Warning signs of someone being abused

Know the warning signs. There are often overlooked abusive behaviors that can be early indicators that your relationship is headed in the wrong direction.

Here are a few warning signs:

Ľ Extreme jealousy
Ľ Constant insults or ridicule
Ľ Telling you what you can and canít do
Ľ Financial Control
Ľ Possessive or controlling
Ľ Making false accusations
Ľ Keep you from seeing or talking with family and friends

Threats of Abuse

ARLINGTON ó Arlington Police Officer Jillian Smith gave her life Tuesday night to protect people like Kimberly Carter and her 11-year-old daughter Ciani.

But she wasn't the only one who tried to save them. Carter's parents tried desperately to rescue their daughter and granddaughter Tuesday night from the man they say threatened to kill them time and time again. On the night the shooting happened, the Carters said their daughter was trying to break up with Barnes Nettles, who police identified as the man who killed Kimberly Carter and Officer Smith before taking his own life. The Carter family said their daughter and Nettles had fought Tuesday night. It got physical, and he left. Then he came back with a gun.

The only one who made it out of that apartment alive was Carter's 11-year-old daughter, who told her grandparents what happened.  "When he walked in and had his gun, the officer immediately put herself in front of Ciani, and he started shooting," said Leah Richardson, Kimberly's mom.  The heroic move by Officer Smith was confirmed by 11-year-old Ciani Jennings, who saw the policewoman get shot down... and then watched in terror as her mother was chased by the gunman.

"When he was starting to go towards Kim, Kim ran to the bedroom and closed the door; Cianni ran out the door and ran to a neighbor's house," said Willie Richardson, the victim's father. "That's how she was able to survive, because of the swift and correct actions of the police officer."  Earlier in the night, Carter's parents knew there was trouble. They first received a couple of text messages ó then a frantic phone call.  "My daughter told me that [Nettles] came over, tried to get him out, but he refused to leave, they got into a fight, and he bit her on her face."

As Carter called police, her parents drove over to her apartment. They saw a patrol car in the parking lot; then saw Barnes Nettles walking up to her door.  But it was already too late.  "The officer was laying on the floor, and we could see there had been a struggle because we can see broken glass and we could see blood," Willie Richardson said.  They ran to another apartment and called for help, worried that they would be Nettles' next victims.  "I think it had already happened, he was waiting so he could take us out too, because he said he was going to take out the whole family," Richardson said.

For two long hours, the Richardsons hid ó not knowing if their daughter was alive of if their granddaughter had survived.  It wasn't until they were reunited with Ciani that they learned what happened; how she heard her mother get shot as she ran from the home... and what a rookie police officer did to save her life.  "She wanted to let the family know that she was very thankful... those are her own words... that the officer spared her life," Leah Richardson said, quoting her granddaughter.  Kimberly Carter's parents say they had also lived in fear for months because Nettles had threatened their lives, too.


Death in Dallas

ARLINGTON ó Through the day and into the night Thursday, people keep stopping by to leave flowers and mementos on the squad car of Officer Jillian Smith.  She was gunned down Tuesday night while investigating a domestic violence case. Smith is credited with saving the life of an 11-year-old girl whose mother, Kimberly Carter, was also killed that night. The girl is in the process of writing her a letter of thanks to the slain officer. she also wants to leave flowers.

More than 100 people participated in a Thursday evening vigil to honor Smith and Carter at the Arbrook Park apartments, where the shootings took place. Neighbors remembered two lives lost with song and prayer. "Even though evil came in, we can come out and show that we are strong," said resident Ernest Baylor.

The families of both victims were touched by the show of community support. "It tears my heart that my sister is gone... gone," said Candace Washington, Carter's sister. She worries about the impact of the tragedy on her 11-year-old niece.  "I don't want her to forget one thing about her mom, and we are going to make that possible," Washington said.

They will also not let her forget the supreme sacrifice that Officer Smith made to protect her. "She is very, very happy that the officer did her job, and she really appreciates her," Washington said. "Every time we talk about it, she says, 'That lady saved my life.'" For the first time on Thursday, Smith's parents, sister and other relatives visited her squad car at the south police station. They were clearly overwhelmed with grief, but very proud.  "It doesn't surprise me that she did what she did," said Ron Haney, the slain officer's uncle. "Again, very proud of her."

Funeral arrangements are now set for Officer Smith.  There will be a candlelight vigil Monday at 6 p.m. at Mount Olive Baptist Church in Arlington. That will be followed by a private wake. Then on Tuesday, Officer Smith's funeral will begin at 11 a.m. at the same church.


Breaking the Silence

WE are yet putting an end to the Abuse that is taking over this nation and outside this nation like the plague.  To all you cowards who want to hit a woman, last night was your last night, you will NOT hit on women like you did last year, THIS year

The call to Break the Silence

God spoke to me one day as I was speaking to a wounded brother, minister, man of God, about how he had been abused at his local church, it touched me, when he started crying like a baby from the PAIN. Then He began to take me deeper into the spirit as I was praying for him

A Mandate in which He has called me to in October 2004 in the which He commissioned me to go forth and compel the people of God to come out of their state of Silence. Silence is killing the body of Christ. You don't have to take what you are taking IN the house of prayer. Then He said the craziest thing I ever heard, and that was I was to get this message, this MANDATE to one million, 1,000,000 believers.

It started with 2 Samuel 13:1-21 that speaks of the story of a little girl, a princess, a virgin who had been violated by her own brother, rescued by ANOTHER brother, just to tell her to keep this nasty secret, a secret. She was a child of the king, and just as there were problems in the house of king David, so it is today. God has placed me on a mandate to BREAK THE SILENCE! This girl was left desolate, all of her dreams, goals, ambitions, gone; in an instant, at the brutal hands of her brother. I call it The TAMAR Syndrome: Tormented, Abused, Mistreated, Abandoned and Raped(rejected). Various forms of abuse are: verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, mental and spiritual.

Tamar was a young girl in the days of this writing, today she is someone's wife, someone's mother, some little boy or girl who trusted someone, the man who grew up in fear and shame. Someone who was molested by his priest, his teacher, his coach, his mentor, sexually, emotionally, physically, spiritually, violated! Someone who is 47 years old and decide to finally come forth and talk about what happened. It could be the preacher who has a call, an anointing and under a pastor who is intimidated and makes you sit and sit and sit... molestation! MEN RAPING MEN, MEN RAPING BOYS, ROBBING THEM OF THEIR DESTINY, THEIR POTENTIAL, THEIR POWER! PRESSURE, in King David's House, PRESSURE, in your house, PRESSURE, in the church house. Little girls getting kisses from mommie's boyfriend, their new uncle, their new daddy. The new husband who gets his kicks out of making your kids do each other as he watch and threatens them if they tell... SILENCE! When God first gave me this assignment, this MANDATE, I assumed it was to women and/or girls, who had silently suffered, then He whispered in my heart, dear child, the abuse is all in my house, against the Men, the Women, the girls and the boys. Abuse doesn't know age, race, religion, gender, it has one common denominator to all its victims: PAIN!

Who is going to Break the Silence that is killing you in the house? Who will rise up and Cry loud and don't spare for the chaos in My House.

Here I am Lord, send me, I'll go. I'll do it, with honor, send me Lord, I'll go.

Chaos in the House

Chaos in the Kings house.
Chaos with the King's kids.
Crisis and confusion in the King's house.
The Lord Jesus is the King.
The church is the house.
It is time to break the TAMAR Syndrome! see 2 Samuel 13:20
What is the TAMAR Syndrome? I'm glad you asked...
Torment Angry Misunderstood Abused Rejected.
Tamar, daughter of The King (David) suffered at the hand of not one, but two brothers in the kings house and was told to shhhh... be quiet, don't tell no body what has happened, THAT devil is a lie. She was a holy princess, she got stripped of her royal garment because of what was done to her, she was violated, victimized, left desolate. Open your mouth and say something. Put your royal garment back on, put your crown back on. And it's not only happening to women, men, boys and girls are being raped and molested in the kings house, some spiritually, some naturally. God help us. It is God that inhabit the praises of His people, when the praise go up, blessings come down, you don't get any if you don't say anything.

I will not remain silent, I will not let you keep hurting me. In 2004 I began a journey for Jesus to break the silence about the trauma in the house of God among His children, biting and devouring one another, killing and bringing one another to a demise. It has got to stop. Killing your sister/brother with your malicious tongue of gossip, holy hatred, righteous indignation, rhetoric and greed. Backbiting, tailbearing, envy, jealousy, bitter cruelty, and strife. I just want to know what is it, my sister, my brother that you would have to wage war against me. Is not your battle with satan enough that you would have to attack like a ravening panther against someone that is of like kindred of you, one in which you go into the house of GOD and break bread together with? Why would you be so gullible to satan to fight against me, have you won all the sinners in the world and none are left so you come after the children of God? We are all a part of the same body, how can you divide the body of Christ. If you read the same Bible, call on the same God that I do, where does all this war come from? I have been silent too long... continues in part 2

Chaos in the Kings House pt.2

CHAOS in the House, Pt 2
I will not be silent no more, no you cannot just walk over me, on me and expect me to just take it. The kingdom suffereth violence and the violent take it by force. I will not be seduced by your control and manipulation, that is a spirit that needs to be cast out of the churches of the living God. I will not be pimped or prostituted by preachers in the pulpit, NO IT'S NOT OKAY FOR YOU TO TOUCH ME AND YOU ARE STILL STRUGGLING WITH HOMOSEXUALITY, it's in the House! God is pulling down and raising up people that will do right. Silence is not submission, it is pain, and it is deadly. (Judges 19:24-28). Meekness is not weakness. I don't have to tolerate your behavior. You a child of the king, put away that childish behavior. I have been told to lay aside every weight and the sin that so easily beset me. "Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us," You and your cohorts, your imps are trying to cloud my vision, slow me down, but I have to lay you aside. And the way you are treating me with your pride and arrogance, thinking you are high and mighty, holier than thou, I have got to lay you aside..... what I see in your behavior child of God, is behavior that is not conducive to Godliness, you acting just like Judas and Peter. You cry out Lord Lord, but can't stand your sister because she wore the same dress twice in one month, or because she finally figured it out that it is better to obey, and now that she has, and God is elevating her, you get an attitude and want to beat her down with your mouth. I'm Breaking the Silence! These things ought not be named among the saints. You should rejoice when I rejoice, you should cry when I cry. But instead you laugh at my calamity, at my weakness, IN the house of God. Who has bewitched you in having you believe that you should not obey the truth (Gal. 3:1) and love one another.(1 Jo. 4:11) If you can't love me, DON'T DIE! "Wherefore come ye to me, seeing ye hate me, and have sent me away from you?" (Gen. 26:27)

To the wounded one, take your eyes off the perpetrator, the abuser, the violater, the hater, and PRAY! Let God handle the situation. It's time to Break the Silence! Let me share my 5 C rule: Confront it, Correct it, Control it, Conquer it, Cover it with the Blood of Jesus. Don't be silent another minute, that person that keep stepping on your toe, next time, you better say something, say it in the spirit of Love and God will intervene for you. YOU CAN BREAK THE SILENCE, SILENCE IS DEADLY. Ask the concubine. Your voice/words are so powerful, He said that life and death is in your tongue, don't you know that as long as the Savior kept talking on the cross He couldn't die, it wasn't until He gave up the ghost and said it is finished and He hung His head and died. You can, you must, you got to Break the Silence. You control your situation, circumstances, surroundings and life by what you say or what you don't say. I hope this motivates you to speak up, when your enemy comes against you, the next time. God has given you the five weapons of massive destruction, the weapons for warfare to defeat your own personal Goliath, the thing, the person that keeps taunting you: prayer, praise, worship, the blood of Jesus and the Holy Ghost, use it! My sister, my brother, Break the Silence. You don't have to partake of the Chaos in the House.

Who can you trust?

There is so much abuse going on behind closed doors, fake smiles, and mounds of makeup. Studies show 1/3 women (women hiding behind images of who people think they are, women hiding behind a shadow and the reason why we don't have the numbers of men being violated is because they don't report it,) suffer silently by their male counterparts, be it boyfriend, fiancť, husband, ex-husband, dad, step-dad, granddad, uncle, boss, coworker... and about the same amount in the church if not more, because we are suppose to have it 'together', we're suppose to know how to take a licking and keep on ticking and smiling and smiling and smiling. Girlfriend, sisterfriend, pearls, you don't have to take that kind of verbage from someone that says they love you, calling you names is not validation. Man of God, you don't have to be a victim to that man in authority another day. There is a man that you can trust, and His name is Jesus. Tamar needed her daddy to stand up for her, to defend her, to validate her, to protect and love her, to speak on her behalf. She needed him to tell her that she is beautiful, to shield her, to deal with the dilemma of his sons devilish behavior against her.

Girlfriend, sisterfriend, pearls, men of God, valiant warrior, mighty man of valour, Jesus is your Father and He is here to heal you, to cover you and overshadow you under the wings of His divine protection. Amnon broke her flesh (Tamar), he drew blood, he brought on tears that would never cease. He tossed her, her dreams, her hopes, her future out the door and to the floor. She tried to help a man in need, one who was ungrateful, unthankful, a liar, a user, an abuser, a man with pitiful passions, a man with issues. She was brutally assaulted. Amnon faked a sickness but the real sickness that he suffered from was in his demented mind, something, most will not own up to nor admit. He was a monster! Who can you trust?

Do you recall when your relationship changed and things began to rapidly go south? Can you recall the first unwanted kiss, the touching of your cookie or whatever secret name, you mama gave you as a code? Can you recall the first hit, the first unkind name, the first time you hit the floor? Can you remember the very first time that woman that gave birth to your child undermined your character and your manhood? The first time she hit you, cursed you, in front of your friends? It can happen so quickly, you feel as if you've been pounced on by a panther. You didn't even realize you were under attack until you saw the blood, you were left out looking in, wounded, battered, bruised, torn and bleeding. (watch out who you trust, they just might turn on you).

Who can you trust

Why I survived

The Lord will never leave you nor will He forsake you, if you've ever looked back and wonder how you made it through that trial, it is because He is with you and He hasn't allowed you to be broken or disturbed.  In my journey to the ER the Saturday following Thanksgiving, God had angels  every step of the way in place for me going, coming and  even sent a woman of God to lay hands and pray, in driving back home  drunk from the medications placed in my veins, the angels gently guided my car back in my lane everytime I veered off in front of an oncoming car, and bless God, there was no road rage, on a saturday night!!! God is so good to me, the reason I survived is because the work is not finished.  Know this child of God, you are here for a  reason, and you  can't go until you've done what you were created to do.
You are a survivor!  God won't let you down.
Veronica "Pinki" Moore

You are NOT alone

No one should suffer silently alone. NO one should be suffering period. Abuse is abuse, pain is pain, no matter which way the perpetrator inflicts it, it hurts, I'M MAD AND WE DON'T HAVE TO TAKE IT ANYMORE!

A few months ago I had the same dream twice and both times it jarred me out of my sleep, the second time leading me to get out of the bed and pray to God for mercy and to plead the blood of Jesus. Now I donít know who this is, perhaps you know. Someone is being violently abused and beaten time after time by her husband. This woman in the dream was in the early stages of pregnancy, he appeared to be excited but he snapped and he didnít care that I was in the house before he picked her up and started tossing her like a rag doll. NOW WOMAN OF GOD: If this is you, call 1-800-799-SAFE. Get out before he kill you. Jesus already took the beating and died you don't have to. I donít EVER advocate a woman or a man leaving their spouse, but this man (in the dream) was about to kill her, he was body slamming her, kicking her and smashing her face in the table as if he was fighting someone in the WWW.   MAN OF GOD: If itís you, shame on you, you will answer to God, one for hitting the wife of your youth, two, for killing the child she was carrying. I am praying that before you raise your hand one more time against her that God will raise His against you. Girlfriend he is not the last man standing, you deserve better, you can have better. He has victimized your mind to dust, you even believe what he says about you, but Iím here today, to BREAK THE SILENCE! He was wrong. All those names he called you, he lied, you can, you will survive. Usually when I have a dream this vivid, it is going on to someone around me. The faces were so clear. YOU DONíT HAVE TO TAKE ANOTHER PUNCH! JESUS, was wounded for your transgresssion, whatever wrong you may have done, HE already was beat for it, you donít have to be. Get help today, call the national number for Domestic Violence against women, donít let your children be motherless. 1-800-799-SAFE  (pass this message to everyone you know, the violence against women has to stop) Sir, you can go to jail, or maybe she will turn for a brief moment out of total fear and kill you. She may get like Anna Mae inside the limo and start to fight you back. Too many women in prison now because she refused to take another beating, she either killed or tried to kill her attacker. Remember men, some women will snap, ie... the astronaut, Dr. Clara Harris, both of upstanding communities in the Houston Texas area, Lorena Bobbit, surely men, you remember her....CALL the number, Break The Silence! You donít have to take it. Pass this notice to your sisters, mother, auntie, cousin, coworker, neighbor, niece, your daughter.

Man of God, if you are being beat by a woman and not saying anything, it is PRIDE, and if she is that out of control that you are showing up to work in pain and have bruises on your body, you need to call the number. Women out of control will KILL. I know, met murders when I was working on a unit that housed women. Let's break the Silence. It is the Man thing to do. The brother next to you is waiting on YOU to say something so HE can say something. Who will be the first to cry out against your perpetrator? Brother it could have been an exgirlfriend, an exwife, and you are still wrestling with the shame. YES, you ARE a Man, but a Wounded Man, healing starts just like salvation: Acknowledging the need for a change.

Pull down the stronghold

You pull down the stronghold that is holding you back. Every infirmity, every weakness, every failure, every sin I have overcome. You can pull it down thru My name and My name only. Know you not, the power that is in My name? How can you tell My people who are down and out that they can come up and over, except I take you down and bring you out? How can you talk about being stripped, broken, busted and disgusted if youíre not there? Just as I healed you, Iíll raise you, but to be raised you must first be brought down. My hand is upon you and every test I direct. I have said I would put no more on you than you can bear. If you must go thru itís because I know you can. Trust Me, only Me, lean and depend on Me. Have faith in Me, believe My Words, believe My works, greater shall you do, if you believe. Yea, I say many of My disciples just like you have fallen, they need to know that I, the Lord God Almighty have all power to raise them. Go get my people, they are out there in the highways and the hedges. New mercies have I given to you to do this work today. Forget yesterday, today is a new day, I allowed you to be stripped, to lose some things in order that you may gain and that you may gain more abundantly. The time is at hand, pull down the stronghold, the power to pull down is in my name. Donít use My name lightly, have no disbelief, donít use My name in vain. Come unto Me, and I will give you rest.
You are about to receive back what you lost and more because you trust God, and you had the audacity to get back up when the dirt was thrown in your face, when you lost your house and your car, when your child ran away from home and the other got locked up and you still had a praise on the fruit of your lips. Receive ye, His new mercies, for they fail you not.
 Lamentations 3:21-28 "This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the LORDíS mercies that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness. The LORD is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in Him. The LORD is good unto them that wait for Him, to the soul that seeketh Him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD. It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth. He sitteth alone and keepeth silence, because he hath borne it upon him."

The Foundation on which I stand

1 Corinthians 9:16-18Ē I am obligated to preach the gospel, I choose to do so willingly, because there is no reward for disobedience. So because of the obedience of Christ in His enduring Calvary, the cross, the Garden of Gethsemane, the betrayal, the beatings, I preach!Ē

The Garden of Gethsemane, the place I abhor, yet the place I embrace, for it is in the Garden where I find out who my real friends are, it is in the Garden that I am faced with my greatest test, trail and pressures of life, yet in the place where I become totally engulfed in doing the will of my Father and coming to a place of total abandonment to Him and to His will for my life. It is in the Garden of Gethsemane I realize that as I take on this Cup, that this struggle is about to end and that I will soon rise to a higher height as promised by my Father. It is in this Garden where I learn the true value of the words ďI got your backĒ where I learn that even though my friends were there, they werenít there for me, I still must press on towards my destiny demonstrating my love for them and so many others. It is in the Garden of Gethsemane where I lay down my life, and allow my flesh to be beat, pierced and crucified for the will of my Father. I lay down my life. Called forth to break out of the Box of religion and just worship God in the spirit and in truth. Called to the body of Christ for ministry, for deliverance, for reconciliation. Called for you.

Don't become another static

Abuse In America

1-800Ė799-SAFE (7233)*


 (TTY)408- 541-6100/ 1-800-572-2782/

* 4 million American women experience a serious assault by a partner during an average 12-month period.
* On the average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day.
* 92% of women say that reducing domestic violence and sexual assault should be at the top of any formal efforts taken on behalf of women today.
*1 out of 3 women around the world has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.
*1 in 5 female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner. Abused girls are significantly more likely to get involved in other risky behaviors. They are 4 to 6 times more likely to get pregnant and 8 to 9 times more likely to have tried to commit suicide.
*1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, slapped, choked or physically hurt by his/her partner.
* Women of all races are equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate partner.
* 37% of all women who sought care in hospital emergency rooms for violenceĖrelated injuries were injured by a current or former spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend.
* Some estimates say almost 1 million incidents of violence occur against a current or former spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend per year.
* For 30% of women who experience abuse, the first incident occurs during pregnancy.
* As many as 324,000 women each year experience intimate partner violence during their pregnancy.
* Violence against women costs companies $72.8 million annually due to lost productivity.
* 74% of employed battered women were harrassed by their partner while they were at work.
* Ninety-four percent of the offenders in murder-suicides were male.
* Seventy-four percent of all murder-suicides involved an intimate partner(spouse, common-law spouse, ex-spouse, or boyfriend/girlfriend). Of these, 96 percent were females killed by their intimate partners.
*Most murder-suicides with three or more victims involved a "family annihilator" -- a subcategory of intimate partner murder-suicide.Family annihilators are murderers who kill not only their wives/girlfriends and children, but often other family members as well, before killing themselves.
* Seventy-five percent of murder-suicides occurred in the home.


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THE KINGDOM SUFFERETH VIOLENCE AND THE VIOLENT TAKE IT BY FORCE! God has given you what you need as a woman to fight back. See Genesis 3:15